Posted by lil' jimi on May 17, 2004, at 17:13:09
In reply to Re: Advice on Handling a Mean Person? » Dinah, posted by Susan J on May 17, 2004, at 11:20:01
hey susan,
just wanted to say that as a parent ...
i ache for you, your nephew and brother ...can a mental health pro or social worker type be arranged to observe this emotional brutality in N's presence to document these episodes? ... ... you have witnessed them yourself? your brother's lawyer maybe? ... others? ... could she be videoed?
this may cross the border into child abuse, emotional ... ... verbal assaults against his dad are easily seen as destructive and harmful to N
... SIL must cease and desist or the authorites should protect N from her ... ... and you may head that list of authorities ...
tony is a sweet classmate of santiago's at their child care center ... they are friends and tony's always smiling and he's the only one who talks more than santiago ... broke my heart when i learned his mom was verbally abusive to tony ... in front of his teacher at the center ... called him an a**hole .... worse, dad's the same way ... ... then tony got assaultive with classmates ... biting their faces ...
turns out mom's bp ... anyway a social worker got her attention and now she's with the program ... ... i was so scared that tony could need to be removed from his home ... ... but it was his folks (and their state) that kept them in denial about tony being special needs and kept him from having been assessed and treated ... ...
tony still has many challenges, but things are much better now ... mom knows she can depend on the center staff to help her ... and tony is being treated with therapy and medications .... he, like our son, is five ... ... tony takes three meds a day now ... ...
tony has inherited biochemical needs ... one of his meds is one his mom takes ... ...
N has a much better, if rougher than we'd like, road ... especially because he has a wonderful Aunt ... and she is a lawyer ...
i don't handle people wigging out so well myself ... ... all i can really offer are my sympathies for N ...
thinking of you,
~ jim
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