Posted by Susan J on May 17, 2004, at 11:04:31
Don't know who remembers any of this, but my brother's wife wigged out and left him last fall. Since then, we she picks up their kid, she invariably yells at my brother and says horrible things like she hates him so much she wishes he would just die, she's never hated anyone so much before, he's the most dispicable person on the planet, he's made her life miserable, etc.
Now, of course I'm biassed because it's my brother, but he's generally a very nice person and I truly think her anger and hatred come from the fact she hates herself and her life and she's blaming him for it. Reasons aside, though, is there anything he can do or say to just make her stop being so nasty? Especially since she's nasty in front of the kid? He's overly nice, in my opinion, and I think the worst he's said is "please don't yell in front of N. I'm not going to discuss this if you are yelling." But that never works.
Any thoughts? He's a lot nicer than I am. I'd say something like she's showing her true lack of class or whatever acting like a witch on the front lawn, yelling and screaming in front of her 3-year-old....Not saying that's a good thing to say, just saying I have no idea what would be effective *and* healthy.
poster:Susan J
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