Posted by TexasChic on April 26, 2004, at 10:36:51
I need a little advice. I don't have that many friends because of my depression and self esteem issues. I really only have two right now that I work with.
The one I'm closest to has a boyfriend I absolutely can not stand. This past friday she and I were at her house. We had ordered pizza and rented Timeline because we both loved the book. Well the movie was terrible and we talked all through it about everything that was wrong about it. We were having alot of fun until her boyfriend comes by. He sits down and starts eating our pizza and starts watching the movie. My friend and I just kept on talking. She got up to take a phone call and during that time he told me it was annoying that we were talking during the movie (it was almost over by this time). I just bit my tongue and ignored him, and my friend came back in the room and started talking about the movie again. After a few minutes of our talking he yells out, "Enough!". I was so shocked and offended my only comeback was, "Hey, we rented it". There was a tense moment and then it passed and we started talking again.
After the movie was over, she and I were talking some more and right when I was in mid-sentence, he tackles her where she's sitting on the floor and proceeds to make out with her. I'm sitting there going, okay, this is uncomfortable. After a couple of minutes I realized she wasn't going to do anything about it so I just got up and left.
He has always showed jealousy towards me and has done the attacking thing before. He also never lets us do anything alone. A couple of weeks ago she wanted a girls night out (which we hadn't had since they started dating), and told him he needed to go out with the boys. We went, but when that night rolled around she told me she had to go spend the night at his place because he accused her of cheating on him. They spend every minute together!
Anyway, I have told her that I think he is possesive and manipulating her, but she just doesn't see it. The worst part of it for me is that she doesn't stand up for me when he insults me, and she doesn't seem to realize making out in front of a friend you invited over is rude.
Now here's the deal, we've been planning a trip for memorial weekend between us and a few other people to go to a concert and then do some tubing on the river. I just don't know how I'm going to stand him. I'm considering not going, but it makes me so mad that he is ruining this trip for me. She is really the only true friend I have right now, and I really don't want to lose her. But how can I put up with this guy without telling him off? I know this is long, but it helped to get it all out. If anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it.
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