Posted by deirdrehbrt on April 18, 2004, at 1:53:11
In reply to How do I meet girls? Dating advice?, posted by sdjeff on April 18, 2004, at 0:42:19
Jeff,
I think that meeting girls must be a part of meeting people, and then befriending the sort of people you want to be with. Those who don't let your financial and health situation get in the way of your friendship will be the ones that last.
Dating then, will come out of friendship and will be more fruitfull because even though you may decide to not have a relationship, you can still have a friend, so long as you don't do things to damage that friendship in the course of dating. This might also solve the problem of telling the woman you met about your situation; she already knows.
Women of character ask the same of men; honesty, faithfullness, dependability, compasion, an ability to listen at once with the heart, mind, and ears, humor and honesty.
When a woman gets upset, please don't get defensive. Defensiveness leads to fights. It's OK to be upset, but if you make it personal it escalates. If you get upset, you should be able to expect the same. If something escalates or becomes personal, take a walk, work in the garden, do anything until things calm down.
If you are considering dating someone in particular, try to decide early if this is someone you really want to be with for the long term. Discuss this with her, that way no-one is upset if the relationship ends soon while she was expecting something to last.
This is my shot list. I hope it helps.
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