Posted by Dinah on April 13, 2004, at 20:52:46
In reply to How Do I stand it...Again?, posted by DaisyM on April 13, 2004, at 13:32:49
Daisy, my sweet, I'm so sorry. :( You've just got more on your plate than anyone should have to bear. Please don't feel guilty about *whatever* feelings you have. Feelings are just feelings. Thoughts are just thoughts. You can't help what you feel, or passing thoughts that go through your mind. They just *are*. You are doing far more than anyone could expect by doing the things you do. Give yourself permission to feel as you really feel.
And as far as doing what you do, I know that it probably helps you get through it all by separating a bit and just doing what you need to do to get through the day. And that's fine. But if you do slip and scream someday, remember that it's not a disaster. As someone once told me, it's good for kids to see that their mother isn't always perfect and struggles with things just like they do, and how their mother handles those struggles. It'd be tough for them to live up to if you make it look like it's a breeze for you.
Don't forget to delegate wherever possible and keep yourself in good shape. You can run on superdrive for a while, but not forever. Take care of yourself along the way and you'll do better in the long run.
And Babble is always here if you want to scream your head off. Even if Dr. Bob does censor the words a bit. :)
(And don't forget to lean on your delightful therapist as much as you need to, and leave the harder work for later.)
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