Posted by Gator on April 13, 2004, at 15:49:02
In reply to Re: married » LynneDa, posted by Magdalena on April 13, 2004, at 14:50:30
Mag,
I understand the "losing yourself" in a relationship. I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years, we've been together for 16 years. Over the years I really became dependent on him for alot of things and ended up losing who I actually was and he of course got used to all the power he was getting from me. I wanted me back again and talked to my Dr. and he put me on Lexapro. Slowly I became more confident and independent and my husband didn't like that he didn't have the same power over me. In December it all came to a head, he was drunk and thought he could tell me what to do and ended up arrested. The judge said the we could have no contact with each other for a month. I had to take care of the house and my 3 kids all by myself over the holidays. Talk about being depressed. But I made it through, my kids a pretty good Christmas and I found out that I can do anything that I set out to do. We have been back together since January 5th and it was a lesson for him too. He now realizes that I'm not the dumb needy blond that he thought I was and that our relationship was worth saving. We are doing great now and both of us are individual persons that are happily married.
Look at me...I hardly ever post and here I am babbling ...Sorry.
I upped to 15 mgs 2 weeks ago and feel really good. My Dr. said that I can go to 20mgs when I ready....I may stay at 15 for awhile.
Thanks for listening.Gator
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