Posted by spoc on March 30, 2004, at 16:08:48
In reply to Re: Confused, posted by octopusprime on March 30, 2004, at 0:22:06
> your friend is probably just confused and hurt. you said she was recently divorced? that is very trying. the "sick of being responsible for everyone elses happiness" line almost sounds like a remark intended for her ex.> > i don't know if her confusion and hurt was really intended for you. you just happened to be there when she let it out.>
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Hi again Tex, just wanted to second octopusprime on this. It's easier to see from outside the situation, as you know! I think a lot of times people undergoing a big change like your friend is do get that "Throw the baby out with the bath water" kind of tunnel vision for awhile. As if virtually anything that has at times been confusing or complicated in their life does not fit with the "new me" they plan to become. They are probably doing what seems right at the moment, but often realize with time that they were hasty and overreacted.The key thing is that it really does sound like she cared about you, and you seem perceptive enough to be able to assess whether she really did get benefits out of the friendship too. So yes, easier said than done, but time will probably lead her back to you -- unless she'll be too proud to admit it if it was a mistake, in which case it may not be worth having someone as a friend who would let you suffer instead....
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