Posted by TexasChic on March 30, 2004, at 9:48:10
In reply to Re: How to know when to trust-paranoid again » TexasChic, posted by Slinky on March 29, 2004, at 23:55:13
Do you see a therapist Slinky? I can totally identify with everything you've said. I've been there, and still am there in many ways. I grew up being such a people pleaser. But therapy helped so-o-o much in helping me realize that its okay to to put me first. Its so easy to get sucked in when you feel sorry for the person, but its not up to you to solve their problems. Its up to them to find it in themselves. But they won't ever do it as long as they have someone else who will do it for them. So you are actually doing them a favor by saying no. I know its easier said than done, I still don't always suceed myself. But I think I'm doing alot better at it.
poster:TexasChic
thread:329550
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20040324/msgs/330272.html