Posted by Karen_kay on March 28, 2004, at 20:13:16
In reply to How to know when to trust-paranoid again, posted by Slinky on March 28, 2004, at 18:00:41
Well, I know that I'm often accused of being naive and a bit too trusting. But, I don't ever want to hurt anyone, so I naturally assume no one wants to hurt me. Of course, it happens that people do hurt me, but it's so much more often with words than with taking advantage. I'll give until I'm empty, but knowing that I'm doing what I can (even if I feel it's never near enough) helps fill that *emptiness* that I have. I think a little less paranoia never hurts.
Perhaps they have to leech because they don't realize their own capabilities? Maybe you could learn a lot more by helping to show them that? Or just telling them to scram? I like to think of the "leeches" as wonderful in a way, because it shows that I'm needed, and everyone loves to feel needed. Could you think of it that way? If not, maybe tell them to scram...
And Slinky my dear, there just isn't a such thing as too nice for life. But, if there was, I'm sure you'd fall into that category..
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