Posted by Elle2021 on February 7, 2004, at 3:25:10
In reply to Re: Learning to like yourself » gardenergirl, posted by Penny on February 5, 2004, at 9:25:16
> However - when it's a matter of looking to meet someone, of the opposite sex, to date, all of a sudden, I feel horribly ugly, terribly incompetent, and the list goes on. I *know* it's not all about looks. And the guys that I have been interested in are usually not the best looking or whatever - I actually really like 'smart' guys over 'really cute' guys. But I can't possibly fathom how any man could ever be physically attracted to me. The thought repulses me! I've only been on a handful of dates, with three different guys, and the third guy was the only one I found attractive. But I kept asking myself, "Why is he out with me?"
You have just described my feelings perfectly. Seriously. I can deal with comparing myself to other women, and I can even think that I am maybe cuter than someone else. BUT, when it comes to men, I can't see how they can be attracted to me in the least. And, honestly, when one of them tells me that they think I'm pretty or compliments me I am utterly shocked. I can't believe it and I don't know how to respond. And BTW, I am way more attracted to smart guys then cute guys. There's something really awesome about a guy who knows a little bit about everything... I love listening to my male teachers lecture... :)
Elle
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