Posted by socialdeviantjeff on January 6, 2004, at 17:27:55
In reply to Re: Still ranting » socialdeviantjeff, posted by Karen_kay on January 5, 2004, at 22:14:05
I guess I don't neccesarily mean judgemental by how they're dressed. It's more how they act. If a person comes across as aloof, judgemental, rude etc. I will reciprocate and add to that. If a person comes across as animated, friendly, interested etc. I wonder what is wrong with them. I'll probably be aloof or rude. The more flat and emotionless a person is, the easier time I have dealing with them.
Concerning your anxiety, I wish I could offer more than just empathy. I do know what you're going through and I hope someday it gets better.
The way I see it, strangers as a general rule will just lie, cheat, misdirect, use and generally screw with you or pity you. I will not allow that to happen by opening up even just a little bit. Besides, I'm not much of a prize myself. The only times this doesn't happen is when the person is paid to be nice and not screw with you. Or interacts with you in a situational contest where these behaviors are out of the question. For example, a doctor, counselor, a customer service person. There are a few, and I mean few genuine people out there, but you have to sift through a lot of garbage to find them. It's not worth it.
It's not as if I want to be this way, I've been able to open up on Dr. Bob. This board and the people on it have done a lot of good for me. To quote Bill Murray, "Baby steps". :)
I don't think I'm your nemesis. Or a lesson. I think we could learn from each other. At any rate, if you want, my Email is socialdeviantjeff@yahoo.com
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