Posted by Karen_kay on December 25, 2003, at 14:07:03
In reply to Re: I'm awful but.... » Karen_kay, posted by shar on December 25, 2003, at 12:10:14
how old you are
*I'm 24, so of course everyone is going to say "It's because I'm young and immature. I beg to differ.my perspective on 'attractiveness'
*My personal perspective on attractiveness is such:
for men: in general I do not find men my age atttactive, though I am in a long term relationship with my boyfriend who is a year older than I am. But, I tend to find that older men are more towards my preference. I look more towards body language and a gentle smile than physical characteristics and facial features any day.
But, I tend to think that others judge me based on how I look. And I rely too heavily on making myself up for others (to the point that I change my clothes at least 3 times a day, I prefer to call it a quirk-my shrink has other opinions). That's a fault I have. But, I don't judge others based on what they look like. I think it stems from the fact that I want to make others comfortable. Or maybe I don't? Not sure really... But, I can't even check the mail without putting makeup on."Who is that beautiful woman?" and then..."Oh, it's just Sharyn."
*Wow! What a lovely compliment! I wish I could get to the point where I could leave my house without getting all dolled up, but alas, I'm not ready. I subscribe to the notion that if I look like I have it together, then I can fool myself and others into thinking I do. And I'm not ready to let that fantasy go just yet either. Sometimes that's all I have to hold onto. If it gets me through the day, why not?And I don't think I'm all that attractive by any means. I'm not sitting here in judgement of her thinking, "Well, I'm much better looking than she is. He should be with me instead of her." It isn't like that at all. Maybe it is my own insecurities about myself.
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