Posted by madwand on December 15, 2003, at 14:28:01
In reply to Re: Tabitha is too kind, posted by tabitha on December 15, 2003, at 4:05:17
> maybe I should write out my responses to the list of criticisms. Probably more useful than a dramatic gesture like burning it or mailing it back to him with his stuff. Like... I am not cold and unloving. Though I withdraw at times, I feel deeply and form longlasting attachments. Etc etc, all down the long list.
Just a though Tabitha, but wouldn't writing out a list of responses tend to "validate" the criticism in a way? I liked your original idea -- just give them back to him! Kind of like you with your parents in Bradshaw inner child work -- a way of saying they were always "his" to begin with and never yours.
"If one does not accept a gift, then to whom does the gift belong?". "Why, to the giver of course." "Then if you do not accept someone's abuse, to whom does it belong?"Michael
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