Posted by tabitha on December 12, 2003, at 16:53:46
In reply to how to phrase a slow-down request?, posted by Medusa on December 12, 2003, at 14:09:46
Hmmmm... with someone I didn't know well, I'd probably just try to decide my own limits and stick to them, rather than trying to get her to change from her side. Like.. if I found myself accepting too many invitations or returning too many calls I'd try to reduce to what I really was comfortable with. Or if I found myself answering too many prying questions I'd try to find a way to gracefully sidestep them.
I'm not good at this stuff either. The last time someone overpursued me I kept giving in (though to give myself credit I did say 'no' a lot too), and finally ended up insulting him to the point he stopped trying entirely. :-( So.. er, don't do that.
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