Posted by Susan J on December 12, 2003, at 15:43:22
In reply to Re: how » Susan J, posted by Medusa on December 12, 2003, at 15:29:35
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> > her emerging personality might not seem so attractive to you.
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> good point. for one, she has some V-E-R-Y ancient ideas about issues such as adoption and "foreigners".> not really - she didn't share personal details, just "nice stories". I think she doesn't have much going on of her own, and other people's lives are a substitute.
<<OK, and you say *I* think the best of people, huh? :-) She probably *is* lonely, then, and might want to latch onto you....often. I *do* believe if you set a pattern, it'll stick better....
> I think I might take her to lunch and explain what I can deal with and what not. If I can ever figure out what to say and how to say it.
<<I have no idea how to do that myself. When I've *tried* that, I either piss the other person off so much they disappear (problem sort of solved), or they dismiss me kind of like what you said your experiences have been. That's why I tend to lean toward behavior right now, rather than direct communication, of course that might mean I'm a failure. :-)
>>this is All About Me! Me Me Me ME ME ME!!! and my communication and social skills.
<<Well *I* think you communicate very well, and that you're pretty cool! :-)Susan
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