Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2003, at 22:43:22
In reply to Re: anger redux - the toolkit! » octopusprime, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2003, at 22:36:35
Oops. I mis-spoke. My family's variant on this one is "I understand that you're angry with Dad(Mom)(Sibling) but that is between you and him (her). I don't wish to be brought into the middle of this because I care for you both. If you insist on discussing this further, I'm afraid I'll have to hang up."
Oddly it's worked out pretty well. Perhaps they realize that I'm also not listening to tales from the other one.
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> > for your mom:
> > "<brother's name> is an adult. if he is angry with me, he can speak to me himself. i don't want to discuss this with you."
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> My absolute all time favorite family line. I use it constantly since my therapist convinced me it was appropriate.
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