Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2003, at 22:36:35
In reply to anger redux - the toolkit!, posted by octopusprime on December 10, 2003, at 22:05:02
You're good at this. I like these very much. :)
> for your mom:
> "<brother's name> is an adult. if he is angry with me, he can speak to me himself. i don't want to discuss this with you."My absolute all time favorite family line. I use it constantly since my therapist convinced me it was appropriate.
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> or maybe 30 seconds into the call -
> "somebody's at the door, bye mom!"
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Another favorite. Also we have it hooked up so that my father's calls have a different sounding ring. Very handy indeed.> you could also include a little thing like, "i treat you with respect, and i expect you to treat me the same way."
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Now this one is great for use with children. I don't think I had to use it more than once or twice with my son when he was quite small, and I haven't had a bit of sassiness or attitude since. A real winner when it's backed up with truth.> i'll be here all night :)
Well, I would hate to take advantage of your expertise. But really, you're quite good at this. :)
poster:Dinah
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