Posted by Ilene on October 25, 2003, at 10:01:00
In reply to Re: People's Motivations » Susan J, posted by Larry Hoover on October 25, 2003, at 7:39:44
> > <<Maybe you can help me with this one. I know we are all social creatures and we have a basic need to interact with others. But I *don't* understand a person who *needs* to elicit bad reactions from another person, or *needs* to make someone feel bad, or anything negative like that. I don't understand the thought process going on.
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> > Now let's complicate this further, and maybe she genuinely likes me. If she does, why would she want to annoy me?
>Maybe she had parents like mine, who constantly insulted each other? Where teasing (annoyance) was the principal form of interaction. I grew up fairly acerbic; it's still a problem. It was only recently I discovered that some people don't like sarcasm.
Maybe she's like me, and sees the half-empty cup first? And talks faster than she thinks?
Maybe she's like me, and thinks that if she proves herself "superior" by finding everything beneath her standards, then everyone will look up to her, admire her, and like her?
Maybe she doesn't see herself doing these things, and she's frustrated by your rejection, but the only thing it occurs to her to do is more of the same?
Ilene
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