Posted by fallsfall on October 22, 2003, at 16:37:33
In reply to Re: Stop Violating Boundaries? Long.... » Poet, posted by Susan J on October 22, 2003, at 14:43:57
I think that you close the door, invite her to sit down and tell her that she makes you very uncomfortable. Give some examples. Then tell her what you WANT her to do (if you are on the phone she is to leave your office, she shouldn't come in your office unless she is invited - she can knock, but you can say not now unless it is business, she is never to touch you etc.) She is NOT getting the hints. It is time to be so clear that she can't possibly misunderstand (for some reason I see one of those big paper pads they put on the stands in big meetings - you could write up the "slides" in advance. That way if she learns better visually you have that covered, too. Or do a PowerPoint presentation for her. What bothers you. What you want her to do.)
Close the door of your office when you are in (or out?).
You tried the nice way, now you have to try the effective way. (don't worry about being rude to her, she is being so much ruder to you)
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