Posted by fallsfall on September 19, 2003, at 10:13:34
In reply to Re: Just Say No, posted by kara lynne on September 19, 2003, at 1:50:42
Kara,
This is too hard for you. And clearly it is hard for him. I think that all of the empirical evidence says that the two of you are doomed as a couple, and that he takes advantage of your control/abuse issues.
Stop torturing yourself. When it is truly all over you WILL get over it. You have a good counselor who can help you do that. It is painful while you are letting it go, but the other side has much less pain.
Stop vacillating. Send him an email that says:
"Ex,
After considerable thought I have decided that our relationship must end. I think that it would be best if we have no contact with each other. You have been an important part of my life, and I thank you for that.
Kara"
(or something like that)And then move on with your life. You have a whole life to look forward to.
(((((Kara)))))
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