Posted by Dinah on September 1, 2003, at 17:35:08
In reply to Re: Exercise is way overrated, posted by Tabitha on September 1, 2003, at 13:41:42
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> Loneliness, depression, and anxiety. It goes round and round doesn't it? I'm in the soup with you these days. My therapist just seems like a nag to me lately, so I'm not feeling close to anyone.
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Ugh. I hate that. We don't have to pay someone to nag us. :( We have to pay someone to nurture us! Gosh, I depress myself.
> I'm sorry all your physical exercise isn't at least helping you sleep. I've been doing a lot of housework, moving stuff around, putting together furniture, curtains, etc, and I notice how weak all my muscles are. They get fatigued almost immediatly with any exertion, so all exercise is uncomfortable. I remember when I took up jogging, it was just so exhausting, and I thought I'd get accustomed to it, but I never did. It was always exhausting. I never enjoyed any exercise except for gentle yoga. Walking is OK for me too.
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I never get to enjoy it. I get physically used to it. I did once enjoy aerobics, but I think that's because it helped me maintain a weight I was happy with. Where did those days go? I still remember doing the stretches to Islands in the Stream, and what did we do the doggie things with? I don't recall. But when I listen to an oldies station, I get the strangest urges.> I was reading up on attachment theory lately, trying to get to the bottom of the painful loneliness that is my constant companion lately. I'm getting so familiar with the feeling. I really feel like a little child, scared in my bed, wanting to be picked up and comforted, but nobody is there, so eventually I withdraw, shut down, and turn inward. I wonder if that isn't the root of all my introverted, self-obsessed, depressive personality. What to do with this insight, I don't know. I'm trying to just feel the loneliness fully.
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What does your therapist think of attachment theory? I don't know all that much about it. Maybe you could start a thread on Psychological Babble? I do know what you mean about wanting to be comforted. I'm an endless pit of need for that.> BTW thanks for the reminder that married people can feel lonely too. I've been blaming it all on my single childless state.
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Yeah, it's just a different sort of lonely. :(
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