Posted by Susan J on August 21, 2003, at 10:40:50
In reply to Roommate acting weird again..., posted by Penny on August 21, 2003, at 9:10:40
> Okay - so my roommate is making me nervous again.
<<Hi, I'm new to these boards, so if I've missed what's going on with your roommate, and I offer nothing helpful, I apologize.>>I don't understand it. She comes home and there's this strange tension - so, I did what I said I would do last time this happened - I asked her what was wrong. According to her, last time it was a miscommunication - my not communicating with her - and she said she didn't know what to expect as far as my mood is concerned when she gets home in the evening.
<<Was she your friend before you moved in together? If not, were you hoping for more than a roommate relationship, someone to hang out with? Do you want to be friends with her?Also, if your mood has improved recently, good for you! That's great! I don't know your background, but if you've recently improved, she might need a little time to adjust. ?
Did you recently move in together? Maybe you have different expectations of how to relate to one another.
>>Then last night she was IMing on her computer and when I came in her room, she minimized the window really quick, which I imagine means she didn't want me to see what she was writing. She's never done that before. Leads me to believe she was writing about me.
<<Not necessarily. Is she a private person by nature? Maybe you feel more naturally open than she does and you are more used to sharing things than she is. I know that my suitemate at work is much more open than me, and "expects" me to dish all about my personal life to her. Her openess is overwhelming to me, the introvert, and it makes me go hide, shut down. Perhaps your roommate is feeling uncomfortable sharing so much of her personal life with you...I dunno, but if it's merely a personality difference, please don't take it personally....Heck, maybe she was having cyber sex with someone and was embarassed....
> I just don't get it. I'm probably reading too much into things again, as is my habit. Trying to not worry...
<<Don't worry. :-) Sounds like you are communicating very well with her, and she might not necessarily be communicating well with you. If you can, give her a bit of space and perhaps things will improve.Good luck,
Susan
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