Posted by whiterabbit on July 24, 2003, at 20:53:59
In reply to Pleasers w/men who are Controllers « Yankeegirl, posted by Dr. Bob on July 24, 2003, at 19:19:57
Girl-
I don't have the "controlling man" thing, I have the "no man" thing. But I can still relate to what you're saying, for sure. I have only one child and it was extremely hard for me to let go of him, he had been the center of my world since the day he was born and suddenly it seemed like he didn't need me anymore. I grieved for a long time...I think that's when the spiral into serious depression started in earnest.Then, when I was finally able to accept that my son was grown, I still wasn't happy but at least I had my husband. Now THAT jerk is dumping me so I really am on my own now...so, it's time to find out who I am again, not the wife or the mother but just me.
Thankfully I know that I can take care of myself, I've always worked and been somewhat independent and done my own thing, trying to be an artist...I stopped painting when I was so depressed and I'm trying to pick it up again.
You just have to find out who you are again, establish an identity...me too.
-Gracie
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