Posted by noa on June 22, 2003, at 12:54:06
In reply to Very long rant. Sorry., posted by kalyb on June 22, 2003, at 12:19:35
She is way too enmeshed into your business. She is saying she doesn't want you there. You are saying you have a possible solution--to get council housing. It would help if she writes you an eviction notice. Then she starts criticizing you for availing yourself of the council housing because she thinks you aren't worthy?
Geez!!!
I think you should calmly tell her that in order to solve the current situation, you and she need to deal with it on a non-emotional level.
DON'T open up your insides to her anymore. She is not going to understand. She seems to use what you tell her against you.
Just deal with the concrete with her, very business like.
It is a shame because it seems she and you were once friends in a way that felt good. But now, the relationship seems toxic.
But I think you and she need to limit the discussions to the bare minimum and very business like. She doesn't want you there anymore. You don't want to be there anymore. What is a realistic timeline to find something else. Can she provide the documentation for elegibility for council housing. Etc. Etc.
I am so sorry Kaly as I think this must be making everything so much harder.
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