Posted by Dinah on May 27, 2003, at 16:15:21
In reply to Re: Cutting, looking for answers.... » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on May 27, 2003, at 12:41:23
Well, I was painfully honest. And I think he understands pretty much. We did come up with a code word. I'm supposed to write some things down that I usually need to ask for so that I don't have to put together the thoughts at that time. He's going to try to remember to ask questions that I can answer with little more than yes or no when I tell him I'm having trouble finding words. And I'm supposed to remember to ask him if I want an extra session instead of cutting. That's a tough one, because not only is my brain disorganized, but I have a strong fear of asking for what I want but aren't sure I can have. I'm as bad as my son about hearing "no". If he even asks for what he wants, he prefaces it with fifteen minutes of "I know the answer is probably no, and maybe I shouldn't even ask". It's not that I mind not getting what I want, because you don't get it if you don't ask, either. It just hurts to hear "no". But we're going to work on that.
And his biggest suggestion for when I regress to a largely preverbal level is art! He says that SI is a form of self expression for what I can't express with words. I don't know though. I am not the teensiest bit artistic or creative, and the thought of facing a blank page is a horrifying one. Flashback to huge failures in art class. :( Maybe I could just sniff the crayons, and not draw? :D
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