Posted by Emme on February 22, 2003, at 20:26:43
In reply to There was a time, posted by likelife on February 21, 2003, at 17:40:46
Boy, some of what you said rang a bell for me. It's hard to know how much/when/how/who to tell people about what you've been through. I feel like after I reach a certain level in getting to know someone, it's sort of almost dishonest for them to know nothing about that part of me. It flavors so much of what I do/think about, etc. Every now and then I think I've done the opposite of you and told a little more than was necessary to someone (or it came out due to some circumstance). Usually my personal "rule" is that I have to know someone a year before they get any info. :)
You seem like a sensitive person (I mean that in a good way) and you *deserve* to have people know enough about you to help you through bad times (as well as enjoy good times). But you don't owe anyone any explanations for anything! It's totally up to you to decide who to tell and how much you tell them.
Make sure they are kind and worthy of your trust and let out a little at a time, whatever you feel want to share at that time. And you might be surprised - someone will understand from their own experience.... I was in for some surprises when I started telling my friends.....turned out some of them had been in the same boat and I never even knew it even though I thought I knew all about their lives and problems!
take care,
Emme
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