Posted by bookgurl99 on February 16, 2003, at 9:08:22
In reply to Alone On Valentine's Day, posted by kara lynne on February 14, 2003, at 22:46:50
Well, is there a solution to this?
i feel for you because i lived with a partner who i loved and did not love me back; it was very difficult. i also feel for your guy, not knowing details, because i've also been the scared-of-commitment one in the relationship. he may be in love but not in a place to give it right now, which means you end up immersed in disappointment.
solutions i see from not knowing details?
+you say you want a place you can afford, where you feel safe, with nice people around you. everyone deserves a place like that, you too. is there a way to get out of your lease? get _him_ to move out and have a new roommate move in? or maybe you could live in a cooperative house, if there are any in your town. i lived in a large co-op with 18 other people, and it was affordable, safe, and nice for the social support. (I think you can find a list at www.ic.org).
+barring that, would the bf come to relationship therapy with you? i've gone in the past and it _really_ helped.
good luck, let us know what happens,
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