Posted by Phil on January 29, 2003, at 6:44:36
In reply to running into an ex-partner., posted by bookgurl99 on January 29, 2003, at 0:29:02
bookgurl,
She should feel, not shame, but maybe a little guilty for leaving because you were sick. Discouraging you from getting help is not 'civil or supportive.' (I use civil where I never did before) That was your first clue.
I think every human being on the planet deals with those feelings at some time. Journaling could help get it out of your system-you can get as angry as you want.
The best way to deal with it is to get on with your life like you're doing. The best revenge is living well.
I wouldn't encourage you to want a dialogue with this woman; we all have to stay away from people that aren't good for us. What she did wasn't right. Realize what you've learned from the experience and apply it.
Intense, short relationships are awful and what you feel is almost always the result.
Friends first-take your time-listen to what they 'say.' Most times it can be fairly easy to pick up on people's real intentions and feelings.
We just have to be willing to hear the truth.
My first real love happened about 22 years ago. We were together 4 years when I found out she had been sleeping with her boss. I was devastated but it's weird, I still feel love for her and always hope she's happy. We all deserve it. We all have shortcomings. It's life, ain't it great?!
You'll find or will be found by the right one and you will know.
Try like heck to focus on the good times y'all had, it's not that hard. Praying for the other person's happiness can change your feeling towards them also.Phil
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