Posted by ShelliR on November 23, 2002, at 15:13:05
In reply to Thanksgiving day dilemma, rambling, posted by Tabitha on November 23, 2002, at 6:03:13
> The thing with me and socializing is I never know what kind of mood I'll be in. Sometimes I need to be alone, and sometimes I need to be around people, and it seems to have a schedule of its own that doesn't match the actual opportunities. So sometimes I think I'm in the mood to be around people so I go out and it flops, and sometimes I think I'm in the mood to be alone, but that flops.
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> I'm alone so much, and feel socially deprived so much, but then something like this comes up and I feel like it's threatening my solitude.
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Hi Tabitha,
I really do understand what you're talking about. There is nothing more satisfying to me than "good" solitude; yet sometimes unpredictably, solitude can backfire into boredom, complete lethargy, or even worse, loneliness.That said, I'd probably opt for socializing. A hour's drive with wonderful music can also be uplifting. Sometimes, if I'm not quite sure about my RSVP, I'll ask if I can come for dessert, (making some excuse about having to stop in to visit another friend on the way.) Cutting the social time shorter takes a lot of pressure off, while still giving me a social connection that many times is a lot of fun.
(anyway, I'm a vegetarian, so dessert is the best part of the meal to me, anyway: that and the sweet potatoes!)
Shelli
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