Posted by Ginjoint on November 21, 2002, at 18:07:20
In reply to more ?'s for partners of sexual abuse survivors, posted by bookgurl99 on November 19, 2002, at 23:01:10
Bookgurl, I'm sad to say that I have no words of advice for you, because I've never been in your situation. But I hated to see your questions go ignored. Have you asked these questions of your therapist? Any hope of help from that department?
I'm a little confused about why your girlfriend is seeing a personal therapist if she's not willing to work on either her depression or her relationship with you. Is there another issue at stake?
Unfortunately, it is almost impossible to force someone to help themselves. It sounds like your girlfriend needs time to realize the effects of the sexual abuse, both on herself and with her relationships with you and others. It's up to you as to whether you can wait this process out; as much as you care for this woman, you also need to think of yourself too. I know that sounds hideously selfish, but it ain't, really....as long as she's not willing to get help. I would just hate to see you end up trying to be her therapist. That's too much of a load to bear.
I hope this post hasn't come across as unempathetic. I've enjoyed your posts and personality in the past, and I care about what happens in this very difficult situation for you.
Ginjoint
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