Posted by ~~tabitha~~ on September 2, 2002, at 17:23:08
In reply to Re: Going hypo? Ted » Roo, posted by Ted on September 2, 2002, at 13:10:54
No fair, I turn my back for a couple of hours and Ted's attentions have already turned to another woman!
> Hi Roo,
>
> > (Smile)...and I picture Tabby to be such a cutie in
> > my mind's eye ;-)
>
> You're not alone, especially with all that talk about dressing up! :-)
Aw shucks, thanks guys. I've always thought Roo sounds like a cutie too.>
> Not necessarily. As long as you are neither aloof nor smothering nor possessive, it'll be fine.
>Well, sadly, I tend to flip between aloof and clingy. Still working on finding that middle ground. It's the whole, if I show interest and it's not reciprocated, I'm humiliated thing. Hence the aloofness. I really need to lose that. Learn to radiate desire without expectation
>
> > I always thought a threesome would be fun too--but ONLY
> > with strangers...
>
> Well... We're strangers, sorta. :-)Never had much interest in a threesome. Too much worry about ending up left out. But... concurrent affairs with a member of each gender, now that would be very nice.
>
> > would _never_ want to share my significant
> > other...i'm too jealous...
>
> What is it with women and jealousy? Why can't women separate sex (and its pleasure) with love? They aren't the same.Ted, Ted, Ted. Tell us how they're different. I really want to know how you guys do it (keep them separate I mean).
I think it's that male/female wiring difference again. I gripe to my therapist about this, since after all it's much easier to find a fling than a partner, but I just can't seem to have a fling--I always get attached, even if the guy is totally inappropriate as a real boyfriend. My therapist says, why would you want to separate your sexuality from your emotions? It's not healthy anyway. I love her for that, makes me feel proud of my female wiring. Then again, sure would be fun to switch it off now and then.
> >>anonymous quickies.
>
> > My married guy friend told me this same thing. I guess I need to hear it from a woman to believe it.
>
> So you don't believe anything a man says? So if your boyfriend whispers naughty, sexy compliments in your ear, you would look at him and say, "LIAR!"
>
> Geez. Gimme a break. :-)No, no, no, that's not what I meant. I mean a guy might see it as a quickie, but unbeknownst to him it could mean a lot more to a woman. For instance, back when I was much more of a naughty girl, I once went off with a guy after a party for sex on the beach. To him it was a quickie, but little did he know I'd had a huge crush on him, obsessing day and night, for an entire year beforehand. So his quickie was my culmination of great cosmic passion.
And I love compliments. Especially the whispered kind.
> >(Not that I'm not gorgeous, of course.)
>
> You're as gorgeous as you feel. Plus, some sexy lingerie, nail polish, lipstick, and a slinky dress go a long way. :-)
>I know, dudes dig lingerie. Am I alone in having a hard time feeling sexy wearing it? It's likely to make me compare myself to the catalog model, a decidedly un-sexy feeling. I'm much more comfortable with cute dresses and shoes, then you get points for style and not just perfectly proportioned flesh.
> >Then when the guy doesn't call...
>
> Phones work both ways, dear. Women can call men anytime, and women can ask men out on dates and ACTUALLY PAY FOR *THEM*! Amazing but true! And men actually *like* that! And they don't all see it as an invitation for sex!! Even more amazing!
>
> That's why *a lot* of shy but nice, single men die batchelors. It's *really* tough to ask women out, especially the first time. And to keep trying in the face of rejection... Uggh. Not fun, not fun at all. Now you understand Jay.Well, I appreciate how difficult it must be. I used to ask men out, but sadly, it didn't really work out too well. It just didn't feel romantic. I finally learned, if a guy doesn't ask me out after I've shown plenty of interest, then either he's not that interested, or he's too passive for me. At this point in my life I want to be courted.
>
> Perhaps an email address.... :-) Or a street address... :-) Or a phone number.... :-) Whoa, I better slow down here.
>Thanks Ted. So nice to be asked. :-) And you might just be able to find my email in the archives too.
>
> > but then
> > the mind can be so much fun too! I really do believe the biggest sex
> > organ is between your ears.
>
> That's been known for years! It can also be the smallest sex organ, meaning a bad attitude can ruin any fun.
>You're so right guys. So much of it is attitude. I think mine has been improved by all this flirting. Think I'll go out and radiate my loveliness to all those lovely flesh and blood humans out there. :-)
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