Posted by ST on June 22, 2002, at 4:04:26
In reply to Re: Losing my niece or nephew ... very sad. » waterlily, posted by wendy b. on June 21, 2002, at 18:19:15
This must be gut wrenching for you. Your story really hit me. I was wondering what your sister must be going through right now. You're being very supportive. I have always known that I don't want kids. So I do understand your sister's shock and depression about this. But she is making the best choice if she truly does not want the baby. There are so many loving couples out there who *want* a child and this baby deserves that kind of surrounding.
But - even if she never wants contact with the baby again, you can leave your info with the adoption agency and when she/he is 18 he/she can obtain this info. Maybe once your nephew or niece is an adult you two can actually have a relationship.
Please see if you can coax your sister in to haveing therapy or some kind of counseling during her final months of pregnancy - it will help her so much. And it may even help her make a surprising decision once the baby is born.
Best of luck,
Sarah
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