Posted by IsoM on June 3, 2002, at 17:09:56
In reply to Wasting life??, posted by fi on June 3, 2002, at 16:11:58
Fi, I guess it shows that I'm getting older. The things I enjoy are fairly passive things too. I have nice memories of some pretty stupid things I did when younger (especially the drugs), but I don't regret the way I am now.
Even in passive things, watching a good show (I love the Nero Wolfe series on the A&E channel), smiling at my cats' reactions to jays & crows landing on my deck for nuts, the caress of a warm spring breeze, I feel like I am living my life to the full. I'm just the opposite of a adrenaline junkie - I don't get a high from those sorts of things, but over-react to these adrenaline surges.
Rather than looking to the future, wondering what you'll have to look back on, try to feel what each moment gives you in the way of simple pleasures. It won't necessarily leave you with lots of memories, but will give far more contentment in the long run. The memories are just that, past & gone, while the present is what needs to be enjoyed to the full. Feeling guilty over what you're accomplishing takes the momentary pleasures from you.
The funny thing is a number of young people I know (including my sons) find that these passive activities like just talking with good friends are their preferred past times.
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