Posted by krazy kat on May 22, 2002, at 10:22:55
In reply to Issues with my mom, posted by Manda on May 21, 2002, at 22:53:45
Manda:
I'm 31 (I almost wrote 30 - not used to being over that hill yet) and I just had a dream last night about my parents. They wouldn't let me go to a Willie Nelson concert (??) all of my friends were traveling to for an overnight stay. I was about 16. In reality, they were very, very strict and caused me a lot of heartache because of it.
I woke feeling as if I had dreamed about Hannibal Lecter.
Our situations may be completely different, just wanted to share one person's thoughts about children and parents, esp. when there are "issues" between them.
I did not get along with my parents until about 25. Even now, we have our good and bad conversations (they live out-of-state).
As long as you are dependent on them, it will probably be more difficult to forge a good relationship. So, I would focus on where you want to go with your life for now, and leave them out of it as much as possible. I don't mean cut them off (I think that's almost always a big mistake), but start defining You, not who they determined you to be.
Re: being frightened of the real world - me, too!! Still!! It's not that bad, though I have realized I am not meant to exist in it the same way most people do. And you don't have to. You don't have to get a 9:00 - 5:00 job in an office. There are other options.
Take care.
- kk
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