Posted by KB on March 11, 2002, at 12:58:17
In reply to give him up!, posted by beardedlady on March 11, 2002, at 12:34:46
For background, he was my first boyfriend in 9th grade, so I've known him for 13 years and we have talked about getting married, so that makes it even harder to think about just walking away.
He's also the first guy I've been involved with for a long time (I've had several girlfriends).I emailed him a letter explaining how I felt and then took myself to the hardware store so I wouldn't be staring at the screen waiting for a response. I actually felt better just for sending it because usually I just take all kinds of shit and don't stand up for myself.
Here's the response - now what!!!?:
"I understand how you feel, and I appologize for not always treating you as the priority to me you really are . You deserve more than "scraps",
and I hope you don't really feel that that's all you get from me. You mean so much to me, and I treasure having you in my life. Let's discuss this in person or over the phone. You know, I often have a bad habit of taking for granted the people closest to me. (My parents, and other special people in my life can, unfortunately, attest to this.) I know this is wrong, and I
feel bad for having at times acted this way toward you. I respect your analogy, but don't know whether it's as simple as me coming in or going out with you shutting the door behind me. I believe and hope we can find a happy mediun we can both live comfortably and be satisfied with."
poster:KB
thread:19628
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