Posted by Teva on January 10, 2002, at 20:48:31
In reply to taking a break from your therapist?, posted by Lini on January 9, 2002, at 9:55:07
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> I am currently on break from my therapist. we talked about it last night, I am not entirely sure of my reasons, but I just felt that I needed to reevaluate why I was in therapy. My therapist said that she understood, which as helpful. Here's my question. . . Has anyone else taken a break from therapy and then come back? How has it gone? What was it about? For me, I think that I am feeling a little bit better and now in a position to evaluate why I am in therapy and what I want to get out of it. There are some specific things I would like to get from therapy and I just feel like a need a break to sort out what they are and articulate them. Does this make sense to anyone? One of the biggest issues I have is paying for therapy. Not because I can't afford it, but I just have this issue with paying, like it cheapens the whole thing or something. Immature? probably, but I get really offended when my therapist wants to talk payments. I have considered just giving her my checkbook and having her write herself checks. I also need my therapist to be more direct and not let me get away with copping out of things. I need to think this through more, but I feel like she doesn't challenge me (or I don't challenge myself?). Lastly, I have this overwhelming need to be "the best patient". Silly, but I actually spend time wondering if my therapist looks forward to our sessions or hates them. Am I just the ultimate freak or has anyone else felt like this?I've done that before as well, and sometimes it can be a good thing to do. Perhaps you are not getting what you need from your current therapist and need to see someone else. I had tried a couple of different ones until I found one that is a really good "fit". She keeps me on track and moneywise is quite accommodating. This is just my opinion, but I think that with your therapist, like any other service, if you are feeling that you are paying for more than what you are getting than it may be time to shop around. I was chatting with a co-worker today and she thought of her therapist as her friend - someone that she feels comfortable with, can tell anything to and not be judged for it. (Especially when they don't bring their own personal issues into your therapy session)
I hope you are able to find a solution that works for you.
Best wishes :)Teva
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