Posted by cmcdougall on December 26, 2001, at 9:49:28
In reply to Re: Husbands ex buys our son gifts........ » bonnie_ann, posted by Augusta on December 24, 2001, at 17:08:49
I am a second wife and step-mom with a lot of experience in these matters. You don't say how often you see your husband's ex, or what kind of relationship you have with her in general, but here's my advice....
Pick your battles carefully - this woman is the mother of your step-child and unfortunately will be in your life FOREVER. Sorry, but thats the truth. Even after your stepchild turns 18, there is still college, wedding, holidays, grandchildren, etc.
No, you don't know what motivation is behind the gift. Unless you have proof that she is psychotic, take the gift at face value. Just say thanks and leave it at that. Believe me, there will be other issues that you can go to battle over. Save your energy for the serious things and try not to antagonize the ex. She has power over your husband's child and can REALLY make your life hell if she wants to.
There is a great support website for second wives and fathers' rights - www.deltabravo.net
Good luck,
Carly
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