Posted by susan C on November 2, 2001, at 11:24:08
In reply to What is unconditional love?, posted by Rosa on November 2, 2001, at 7:12:07
I would like to think I have raised my children with unconditional love. That they know I (we)love them no matter what. That I may not like what they 'do' but i will always love them as people. I was always, or tried to be, attentive to how i referred to them, as not 'you are a good boy' but rather 'what you did was good'. The person and the deed were always separate. I learned much of my child raising from my parents (of course) but also from the 1970's alternative teaching I studied in college. I'm OK you're Ok, stuff now I look at and groan...but it did bring a self awareness to me and identify a respect and consideration for children, be they 1 month old or 50 years. This is all the ideal, of course, what I think I have done. I know I can not trust when I am ill, I know I am going through empty nest, I wish I could be more of a friend to people around me. I am a recluse, trying to come out of my shell.
a reflective mouse
susan C
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