Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2001, at 9:47:05
In reply to What is unconditional love?, posted by Rosa on November 2, 2001, at 7:12:07
> How would you describe unconditional love? Is it the ability to give and receive nothing in return? Do you feel you received unconditional love as a child? Have you ever loved someone "unconditionally"?
I don't think I believe in unconditional love in the form of unconditional positive regard or unconditional acceptance. I think the best you can hope for is unconditional attachment. My parents might not "love" me or my brother all the time, but they will always hope for the best for us. They will always be interested in what we do. If they think we are on the wrong track, they will grieve for us and they will always hope we will turn ourselves around. They will always do what they can to help us. Of course, that help may not be in the form we want. They may strongly disapprove of us or even dislike us at any given time, but they will never be disinterested in us.
I'm pretty sure that no one gives indefinitely while expecting nothing in return. That sounds more like victimhood than unconditional love.
Just my own rather cynical opinion.
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