Posted by galtin on October 7, 2001, at 18:47:43
In reply to Re: Abandonment and Rejection » Rosa, posted by kazoo on October 7, 2001, at 11:03:39
> > His natural father abandoned him when he was small and has remarried. His brothers and sister refuse to accept him and they have no contact unless he initiates the call. (It is unclear whether these are children from the second marriage.) His natural father does not try to contact him.
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> > He is seeking acceptance from his natural father and brothers and sister.
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> > He would like to have a father-son relationship with his stepfather but is unable to do so. What do you suggest?
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> ^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Unless your friend is willing to accept his stepfather's alcoholism, and all the nasty abuse that goes with it, then the only way he can possibly achieve any sort of bonding is by becoming like his stepfather, and even that has no guarantee of working. Alcoholics are nasty creatures and they know it, too. I find them debasing, disgusting and degrading. Alcoholics have this rotten habit of directing their delirium toward those don't deserve it, and for that reason alone they're not worth any kind of affection, sympathy or compassion.Rosa,
Since we were not asked for our views of alchoholics, I am thinking that your categorical condemnation of them comes from painful personal experience. I can't think why else a person would make such harsh, judgmental statements. Not to mention, inaccurate.
galtin
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