Posted by Kingfish on August 13, 2001, at 13:54:04
In reply to Re: Poor Greg ;) (np), posted by Greg A. on August 13, 2001, at 13:19:30
Sorry to jump in, but just a quick note from a female - I often don't feel like being monogamous at all (with one person for the rest of my life). Have been married nine years and have recently gone through a mjor upheaval, and am still going through it, too. When I finally realized that I have always felt "odd" about monogamy, I felt better.
I think society expects women to want a lifetime monogamous relationship, and that's not always the case. It doesn't mean you don't have one, it just means, you have to accept that desire is there.
I think your explanation fits me pretty well, Greg, the desire for serial monogamy.
Thinking about actually leaving my husband did a lot for me - it opened up new possibilities that I never thought of before, because I thought I "shouldn't." I'm still struggling. I don't have children, so it makes it easier for me, I think.
Getting away for awhile, even a night or two at a time is imperative, so you can get a different perspective. I went on a 10 day trip to visit friends and my parents. Without that, I don't know what would have happened...
- K.
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