Posted by Shar on June 26, 2001, at 23:06:34
In reply to Thanks Cam ..., posted by Willow on June 25, 2001, at 16:31:54
Willow,
I can highly recommend a web site called www.petloss.com and I think a visit is in order for you and your kids.You can write a memorial for your pet, and it is posted and kept 'forever' on the site and you (or kids) can go back and read it. Or you can go back and add to, or write again. Some of the stories there are deeply touching, and much to my surprise, a large number from males.
It also has the Rainbow Bridge story...where pets go when they die. It is beautiful and moving.
I grieved over the loss of my beloved Scruffles for a year, knowing that every holiday and special time without her would be sad for me. I still weep at times now. She was the only one I gave my heart to without fear...and she took very good care of it. (I'm very animal oriented, you can tell.)
Why you would feel guilty grieving the loss of a dear companion is beyond me. Your friend's diagnosis also is terrible and deserves your attention...in addition to, not instead of, your pet. And, why you want to keep a stiff upper lip...well...I think that just makes it harder to deal with when it happens to a pet one loves a great deal...pretending it doesn't hurt.
I'm not wanting to be critical. I'm wanting you and your kids to feel for your loss in a way that honors y'all and your pet.
xo
Shar
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