Posted by Diane J. on June 26, 2001, at 17:46:01
In reply to Re: Bumped into someone at therapist's office, posted by yo-wazzzup on June 26, 2001, at 15:14:01
I used to want my ex-therapist to like me the best. But you know that saying, "Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it?" My ex-therapist made at least 4 telephone calls on my supposed behalf to people who were in my life at the time (a teacher, co-worker, etc.). She did this without my informed consent. She may have had good intentions, but it was wrong for her to have done it. This is a big reason why she is my "ex-therapist."
I think it is perfectly normal for you to feel the way you do about your therapist. It's hard though, because your feelings may seem confusing since you're an adult. I think there is a way you can look at it that might help. I was once told that the patients are sort of like the therapist's children. The therapist, like a mom or a dad, has plenty of love or unconditional positive regard or empathy or whatever you want to call it for all of his patients. But he or she can't have favorites! They are all important to the therapist. The therapist wants the best for all his patients.
Sincerely,
Diane J.
> Maybe it's not jealousy? (maybe it is) Maybe, on some level you fear the info. divulged to your therapist may be transfered to this woman & she'll gossip to those u both know? But, maybe it is jealousy, the type u feel when u consider someone a close friend & confide in them & as time goes by s/he may start dividing time with some one else. Hmm. as I type it makes sense...Like dating someone, for instance. ahh, I'm just babbling & probably not making sense 2 anyone else. But, it works in my mind. I think your feelings are just part of human nature?!?
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