Posted by dj on February 12, 2001, at 1:26:46
In reply to Re: RZIP : ) , Allisonm , and others ..., posted by willow on February 11, 2001, at 21:37:20
> > the psych isn't a friend, right? It adds confusing emotions into an already confused mind.
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> Maybe I'm "analyzing" too much into it? Maybe >I should just enjoy it as it is?Contrary to RZip's comments my interpretation would be that your comment above is dead on. The point is to feel the feelings, not to think the feelings. To acknowledge them, to consider them, to enjoy them but not to obsess about them and what happened or did not happen.
A very good group facilitator whom I know and respects once told some friends and I the story about how when she realized she was warm for her therapist's form (ie. - she was having fantasies about her relationship with him, a very nice and reputable guy, whom I also know) and decided to tell him as much during their session. He looked at her, commented: "How nice for you." and the session continued or ended as per usual.
She was pissed at him for awhile until she decided he was right and decided to enjoy her fantasies, as such. How nice for her, as she came to appreciate things as they were, not as she wished they were...!
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