Posted by gwen on February 9, 2001, at 19:49:48
In reply to Re: Ant-Rock... Bad times » gwen, posted by Ant-Rock on February 9, 2001, at 12:53:28
Anthony,
> > It's absolutely killing me that I've lost my wife because of an illness.< <
I hear you. I'm sorry. This might be impossible, but maybe try not to think of it that way? There might be more than one reason, but she's articulating just this particular one right now. In any case, it's not your fault.
> >I'm sorry if I'm whining, but this is tearing me apart.
You're not whining. You are in a lot of pain.
> >I had a first visit with a cog-behav therapist the other day. Maybe some good will come out of it.< <
Good luck. I hope he helps bring some peace to you. How often will you see him?> >I just can't get myself to let go of some hope for reconciliation, even though it's obvious she doesn't want this.< <
You can let go of it in your own timeframe when it feels all right to you to do so.
Here you're full of pain and anguish and I'm just full of advice. I'm sorry. I don't mean to keep telling you what to do.
Wishing you peace.
Gwen
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