Posted by gwen on January 31, 2001, at 20:18:00
In reply to Re: Ant-Rock » gwen, posted by Ant-Rock on January 31, 2001, at 15:35:43
Why SHOULD you trust anyone? You've just been terribly wounded. It's a very common response for those of us who have been left.
Trust!!! Arrrrggh! I was fairly badly neglected as a child, so this is an issue for me. Of anyone in the world, I thought I could trust my husband. For a long time after the breakup I was absolutely positive that I wouldn't ever trust anyone ever again and that I'd never get into another relationship. I'm still not sure I'll be able to allow someone to get so close to me that I'll have to trust them that much, but I'm not ruling it out anymore. I have found over time that to live in this world, you have to trust to some extent. And I have come to see that not everyone is my ex-husband. I've also decided that I'm not going to make his mistake and jump into another relationship right away. If it happens it will be because it's right. If it doesn't, I'm OK living with myself now.
I had a friend who was left who got into a relationship with another who'd also been left. That seemed to help.
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