Posted by Noa on January 15, 2001, at 12:07:23
In reply to Re: Help my heart is broken, posted by ksvt on January 14, 2001, at 16:59:19
Lexie, I am glad you came back for support. This is a rough time, and you need as much support as you can get, but you have to reach out for it--so I am glad you are.
Most likely, what your husband says now is all going to be bitter, so try to defend against it by shutting it out and not letting it get to you. He probably has an agenda, so every thing he says will be to promote that agenda, that is the main purpose. So, try not to listen because if he wants you to take it to heart, to be weakened by it, he will say the bitterest things he can, and it could weaken you, but if you resolve to not let it, it doesn't have to.No matter what else happens, you have a good relationship with your son.
Why not start a letter to your son that he can read when he is older--a letter explaining what is happening and why, how you are making the choices in the interest of protecting him from a bitter custody battle, about how hard you are trying despite a disabling illness, about how much you love him, and cherish every moment with him.
poster:Noa
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