Posted by ksvt on January 14, 2001, at 16:59:19
In reply to Re: Help my heart is broken, posted by tina on January 14, 2001, at 16:27:59
>Lexie - remind your husband that you didn't leave your son - you just left your husband for the good of both you and your son. As long as you can keep the acrimony out of this, and vigilantly grab every opportunity to be with or talk to your son, things will get better. Eventually your husband is going to get on with his own life and he's going to need your help with your son to do that. As your son gets older, and if your relationship with him continues to be strong, the greater his voice will be about how much time you spend together. Don't push it or fight it, just let it happen. You're doing a wonderful thing here and I really hope that it will pay dividends down the road. ksvt
Do not think that you leaving was a cruel thing Lexie. It's crueller to stay and bring up a child in an unhappy home. My parents stayed together for the kids and I now have many emotional scars that are affecting my own life in a very negative way. You did what was right and never doubt that. All your little boy needs is to know that you love him and that you'll be there for him whenever he needs you. And from what I hear from your post, you do love him and you are there for him. You did the right thing. Be kind to yourself. It doesn't matter what your husband says, he is lashing out at you from a place of pain and rejection. It isn't your fault. As long as your little boy knows you love him and you show it everytime you're together, you are all he needs. I know you're a wonderful mom.
> Big Hugs
> Tina
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> > I know I have been gone for a while. I haven't even had the energy to ask for help. As some of you know I recently lost custody of my 5 year old. The pain of only seeing him every other weekend and on Wednesday evenings for 2 hours is more than I can take. Last night I blew him a kiss and he told me I had "Magical" kisses and he would miss me when I wasn't around. I take him home at 6 tonight and I feel so much pain. He always begs me to stay. I have to close the door to his room. I wont sleep tonight. Does it ever get better? My husband keeps reminding me that "my" leaving was the cruelist thing anyone could ever do to a 5 year old. I feel like 2 happy homes is better than one bitter angry one. I could sure use some hugs right now. Lexie
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