Posted by Noa on November 22, 2000, at 13:09:57
In reply to Re: Suicidal Feelings, posted by Noa on November 22, 2000, at 12:56:18
I think sometimes people do express desparate feelings in a mix of other stuff and it can get lost in the shuffle and misunderstood.
I didn't agree with some of the hostile manner of Hannah's posts and feel she did provoke hostile responses sometimes. But I also felt people jumped on her too much too, and some even tried to corner her or goad her into more hostile exchanges after she said she wanted to participate peacefully. And then, when she expressed suicidal feelings, it was a shame that they were lost in the hostile exchange from her side and from others.
I would like people to be more straightforward when asking for help, but we have seen that that is hard for a lot of people. I wish everyone could reserve the impulse to react hostilely to a hostile message---and then either ignore it, or respond with a more measured response, or reread it and see what else was in it, not just reacting to the hostility.
I am still not happy about the sarcastic thread about group dynamics because yes, even though it applies to all bboard group dynamics, I think it still is not respectful of the sensitive nature of this board, and that it *appears*, even if that wasn't the intent, to make fun of someone who is in great distress, and who may still be reading this board even if she cannot post here. It also seems that at least one other person felt it might have been about her, and now she doesn't feel safe here.
I came here(there was only one board then, actually) a year and a half ago in tremendous distress and found incredible support that may have helped to save my life. I am invested in this place, as I believe many others are. I feel a lot of us who come here are in pain and that calls for sensitivity. I also love humor and wouldn't want it gone, but I feel we have to be mindful of the special nature of this board.
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