Posted by Mark H. on November 9, 2000, at 22:23:37
In reply to Re: Claims of Abuse as a Form of Abuse, posted by Hannah on November 9, 2000, at 21:13:38
Dear Hannah,
Ahhh, interesting comment. I didn't ask whether you and Greg had resolved your differences. I asked why you "objected to what Greg wrote," which is something you still have not articulated.
I also asked if you could see how your own definition of abuse defines you as an abuser? Neither of these is a particularly hard question to understand.
I was hoping you were up for a little self-exploration, and that we might have taken it to yet another level. It would have been interesting to explore how chronic victims actively invite and perpetuate victimization through their choice of words and targets. Few victims have the courage to look at that; those who do rarely remain victims.
An arrow in the heart is the fault of the person who chooses to pick it up and thrust it through her own chest. I'm afraid you didn't get the most basic point I was trying to make.
Perhaps another time....
Mark H.
> I don't really get your point. An arrow in the heart is not the fault of the person who is shot whether or not the shooter was aiming at her intentionally. I tried to make it clear that I objected to what Greg wrote not who he is. I think Greg and I have resolved our differences. I don't really know what you want to know or accomplish so I don't think I'll try to answer questions I don't understand.
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